This is it guys. This is the secret list you have been waiting for that will make you the ultimate husband, partner, significant other (and dad). It’s a list compiled from the secret and hallowed rants and vents that mothers share when you do not do these few simple things.
This list will make things at home better.
At the very least you will have a reference point when you are wondering why your lovely wife/partner/mother of your children is frustrated and sad (Have you not been doing number one? Shame on you!)
I’ve numbered them to make it easy.
You can cross them off each number at a time. Whatever works.
But this list will work.
Do them like a boss.
THE FIRST FIFTEEN SECRETS TO BEING AN AWESOME DAD
- Tell her she is doing a good job
- Help her to make time for herself
- Never watch her doing chores
- Give her a hug without her asking for it
- Recognise that raising children is a job too
- Realise that she loves the baby/ies, but sometimes she needs time to just be by herself.
- Make time to spend with her each week – even if it’s just an hour and a half to watch a DVD together
- Ask her what you can do to help.
- Organise date night
- Prioritise family time in the weekends.
- Surprise her sometimes with a sleep in. Coffee in bed for bonus points.
- If you see something she hasn’t gotten around to and you have a spare minute – just do it. (It means she won’t have to do it late at night and she might get to bed earlier (Win-Win! Wink-wink).
- Plan the occasional outing with the kids (preferably while the house is tidy) so she can have a precious hour to herself
- Tell her she is beautiful even when she has puke stains and fat pants on
- Make time to talk to her at night – some days it may be the only face-to-face adult conversation she has
NB: Note that none of this has very much to do with parenting of the actual baby/kids. Let’s just start here. It’s easy isn’t it?
Where did this post come from? Well, recently I read some ugly statistics about marriage and life after babies and how there is a general sense of decline in daily happiness and I thought, bugger that. There is an easy fix – and the main thing is starting with how everyone feels on a daily basis…. and this list will help.
What do you think? Have I left anything out? Mums? Dads? Your comments count.
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